Speaking From the Heart ❤️ 

Consider omitting this from your wedding ceremony: if anyone has anything to say about this union, speak now or forever hold your peace. Most witnesses don’t hold their tongues after you’ve been married for a bit. Especially if they haven’t been holding their tongue since before the wedding.  This is NOT the time to say anything […]

Vows: Talking Points for a Possible Future

Vows make me laugh. In contemporary ceremonies, it becomes abundantly clear when the words and intentions are contrived. Don’t say what everyone else has said. Don’t sing a song you don’t have in your heart. Whether during a wedding or a personal, intimate moment, vows and promises should be made with earnestness and hope. Your […]

Writing Can Be Hard

Most people write their own vows or use traditional templates to express their devotion. But sometimes it can be hard to put in to words the feelings and experiences you’ve shared with this person, especially during a public ceremony. There’s no shame in asking for help. Speeches, vows, and poetry or spiritual verses are used […]

It’s About Time

Get some counseling. Not from a friend you spill tea with, unless they’re certified and you’re willing to tell the truth. Find a soothsayer counselor that aligns with your values and identity needs. Perhaps because you are considering marriage or have run into a troubling time. Each participant will enter the session with their own […]

2016 has Separated, Divorce Pending

Only if it will make you happy. As it has some. This has been a rough year to say the least. It only makes it that much more devastating when pop culture icons (actors, musicians, singers, artists, writers, and all those behind the scenes) die off in droves. You could mark each month by their […]