Cancer, Kids, and Curriculum

When a young person dies it is difficult to process their loss. You believe they should outlast you, way beyond your experience with them, plus 5 years (give or take). Unfortunately, adolescents leave this plane and the adults around them need to support other young people in their grief. We are putting together a crisis […]

Your partner may be a misogynist…

Disclaimer: This list comes from nowhere specific and is about no particular couple. Your partner may be misogynistic in nature and you are on the other end of the experience. The notion of “hating womxn” seems harsh but it is something experienced on a daily basis in micro and macro aggressions. Womxn, here, can include […]

There are Rules

Recently, I read and pondered the following quote stateing we are “paralyzed by the illusion of choice.” This was said in response to modern relationships, especially for younger people. I sat back and thought what’s wrong with demanding choice in the intimate relationships you create with another person or other people. Life’s a buffet. Pile […]

Speaking From the Heart ❤️ 

Consider omitting this from your wedding ceremony: if anyone has anything to say about this union, speak now or forever hold your peace. Most witnesses don’t hold their tongues after you’ve been married for a bit. Especially if they haven’t been holding their tongue since before the wedding.  This is NOT the time to say anything […]

Vows: Talking Points for a Possible Future

Vows make me laugh. In contemporary ceremonies, it becomes abundantly clear when the words and intentions are contrived. Don’t say what everyone else has said. Don’t sing a song you don’t have in your heart. Whether during a wedding or a personal, intimate moment, vows and promises should be made with earnestness and hope. Your […]

Nelsan Ellis: Eulogy for a True Blood

Nelsan Ellis (1977-2017) is best knows for his iconic work on the hit HBO show True Blood. He plays the short order cook with a penchant for telling you about yourself. Truly a great encapsulation of a queer person of color in a small Southern town. Lafayette was a character created to die in the […]

Vanity: A Celebration of Separation 

I wonder what Aryn Drake-Lee was thinking 13 years ago when she married Jesse Williams. I wonder what he was thinking, too, but it’s irrelevant. He’s leaving. She’s not putting up with anymore BS. It’s about time. Let’s celebrate.  Jesse caught people’s attention as a new, pretty face on Grey’s Anatomy (ABC). He joined the cast […]

Light Skinned Rage: A Celebration 

 This is me and my father. He taught me in direct and indirect ways about racism, specifically racism impacting Black folks. He said he didn’t start experiencing racism until he moved to California (from East Orange, New Jersey). I translated that into maybe you didn’t notice because you were the youngest surrounded by Black Middle […]

444

Numerology states that seeing numbers in threes is significant. For instance, 111 means Wake Up Call (from the Mystical Realm). Be aware of your spiritual path. 444 means Home Is Calling (in the feminine realm). A strong womxn in your life/home/family. 555 means a Change is Going to Come.  I’ve been seeing these three sets […]